Your Filter Determines Your Success
My daughter Ashley often hangs around me while I do chores around the house. She likes to talk and discuss just about anything, she truly enjoys engaging me in conversation. Recently, she stood next to me as I brushed my teeth before bed. I felt the urge to talk with her about attitude.
She has a great attitude, most of the time, but for some reason I felt compelled to discuss it tonight. I turned to her, “You know, Ashley, your attitude will determine what you can accomplish in your life.”
“How do you mean?” she asked.
“Well, have a good attitude and you will have a steady stream of opportunities, but have a bad attitude and your opportunities will be limited.” I explained.
But what is an attitude, really? It’s a word that is used often, but do we really know what it is? My daughter didn’t and it required further explanation to hammer my point home.
How you see the world determines how far you can go in it. How you see the world is reflected by your attitude, which is a result of your filter. Whatever you allow in your life shapes your attitude. When I was in the military, my attitude was shaped by that experience. I lived a life of “black and white” with no gray area or nuances. In the military, if I got it wrong, people could die, it was that simple and my attitude reflected that. When I was younger, I watched almost any movie I desired, and hung out with all sorts of characters, and my attitude reflected it.
As I grew older and wiser in my decisions, I became more selective in my associations and only allowed relationships in my life that were positive. I became more selective in what I allowed to enter my consciousness with the shows I watched, books I read, and my attitude reflected it.
Your attitude is as precious as the finest gems on earth and must be protected and cared for on a continual basis. In the military we called it an “attitude check” and is something you must do often to make sure your filter is working and your attitude is aligned with your vision of the future.
Take stock in what you are allowing into your life and ask yourself, “Is this positive for me and will it help me become a better version of myself?” Don’t compromise and keep your filter tuned into what makes sense for you and aligns properly with your goals so that you can develop an attitude that will ensure a steady stream of opportunities will continually come your way. What are some things you could eliminate from your life today that will have a positive impact on your attitude?