Take Ownership of Your Life
How would you define freedom in your life? I often heard freedom defined as having total control of your time and money. That sounds great doesn’t it? Living a life free of concern about money. A life where you have more money than month, living the way you want without having concern about the price tag.
How about having control of your time? A life where your circumstances don’t eat up your days, where you fall helpless in bed at night, frustrated that you simply did not get time for yourself. How great would it be if you called the shots all day long and dictated how you spent your time? What if you woke up without an alarm clock? What if you went to bed when you were tired and woke up when you were rested? Sound good? For the overwhelming majority of us, this kind of life will never become a reality for one simple reason. Most of us never take ownership of our lives in a way that would give us a shot at total freedom of time and money, but why?
I would not classify myself as an observant person. I live my life with blinders on and don’t get too distracted by what others are doing around me, but I do notice indicators of success and study people that I admire. What I discovered about successful people that have developed a freedom from time and money is that they have a certain character traits in common. The one trait I’ve become fascinated with is how most successful people take ownership of their lives and live with a purpose.
Living a purpose driven life is a beautiful thing. Having a purpose for living allows you to roll out of bed in the morning with anticipation for what lies ahead of you. When I meet someone that is frustrated and not succeeding, I soon discover that he has lost his way and is living without purpose.
In order to truly be free in life, you must learn to lead a life with purpose and that can only be achieved by taking ownership of your circumstances and begin moving in a direction that has meaning. How do you do that? Here are six principles to consider:
- Let go – Life happens and it hurts, I know, but we cannot allow our past or negative circumstances to define us. In order to be free, we must learn to let go of the things that are holding us back. What’s holding you back and is not allowing you to move forward? Who do you need to forgive? Do you need to forgive yourself?
- Focus on your strengths – You have talents. You have certain areas of your life that you can do better than anyone else. In fact, you are uniquely qualified to do certain things that no one on earth can duplicate. What are they? Discover your strengths and spend the rest of your life developing and mastering your talents.
- Set goals – It’s hard to achieve anything without defining what it is you are trying to achieve first! Get into the habit of setting goals. You only need to define a handful of goals, keep them simple and realistic, but don’t go another day without them.
- Surround yourself with quality people – You are the average of your five closest friends. Think about the people in your life, the people you keep close to you. Are they elevating you or dragging you down? Your friends should inspire you and challenge you to be a better person. Don’t continue feeding relationships that are holding you back from fully developing into the person you were meant to be. Love on people, support others and show compassion, but don’t take counsel or hang out with people that are negative and not allowing you to flourish.
- Stop making excuses – I understand that there are reasons why you stumble in your life. We all have them, but don’t allow them to become excuses for why you are not living a purposeful life. Life is chalked full of examples of people who achieved success in spite of their circumstances. If you find yourself complaining about your circumstances, then stop it and move on anyway.
- Act – A person in motion is a beautiful thing. When you begin to take action, things start to happen. Resources begin to appear. You build momentum and it becomes easier to avoid obstacles that used to hold you back. People that are negative influences are left behind and soon disappear. You begin to attract others that help you along your journey and before long you discover that money is less of an issue and your time becomes more flexible, because life tends to bend towards those who take action.
It’s not easy to take ownership and to live a life on purpose. You must make hard decisions and open yourself up to pain when you stumble; however, that is far better than where you may be right now. Take ownership and begin moving towards the life you were meant to live. What actions can you take today that will start you on a new path towards freedom?