Your Words Matter


Your Words Matter

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The old saying, “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” is ridiculous.  Your words matter and what you say about or towards others can have a tremendous impact on their journey.

My sister, Kim, taught me this lesson in my early 20s when she pulled me aside one day.  “You need to watch what you say, Erick, your words matter.”

I thought she was being a little over dramatic when she scolded me back then, but her statement stuck with me and over time I learned to appreciate her advice.  Our words do matter and what we say about each other and to each other sticks to our souls.

I’ve struggled to filter my words over the years.  I speak my mind and I joke a lot.   I often wish I could take my words back, especially when I say something that hurts another person.  I’ve sabotaged my own progress by saying something negative about myself.  My wife is my accountability partner and reminds me when I get loose with my words.

Nothing has taught me this lesson more than with my kids.  Their body language is telling as their shoulders slump when I express something negative to them.  My words and how I verbalize them to my kids can change their entire mood.  I’ve learned to uplift them and bite my tongue more so that I can encourage them, especially as they go out into a negative world.

Watch what you say to others, even when you’re joking like, “Why can’t you do better?” or “You’re an idiot!”  Even words about yourself can stick like, “I’m really not good at that.” Or, “I can never do that.”  The world is hard enough, don’t make it harder on yourself by saying things that can have an impact on you and those around you.

Be aware of what you say and careful with what you say out loud and release into the world.  You can never take your words back, so be smart and remember that your words matter, especially to those closest to you.  Uplift and encourage people with your words and live a blessed life.

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  1. “Words matter”. This sentence reverberates in my mind. I can hear my wife saying this to me. She helps me to understand that while she knows my heart and can interpret what I mean, I need to be sensitive to the rest of the world that doesn’t have the knowledge of my loving heart. What can be an innocent comment if you know my heart means the best, can come off harsh. I am so used to speaking my mind and even pride myself on this character trait, it has unintentionally hurt others. I am constantly working on this and it is difficult to process everything and then speak without sounding like a robot or a dis-interested participant.

    “What is wrong with you?” is probably one of the worst things I actually say {embarrassed to admit this} to my children. This happens when they DO something that is so obviously silly. Now I really mean, why would you not do it this way or what did you do it that way – an action. However, my words come out sarcastic and actually make them think there is something wrong with them as a person. What a horrible thing for me to say. Again, I obviously don’t mean there is something wrong with my child, but just can’t contemplate why on earth they wouldn’t put my cherished scissors back in their perfect spot after using them? Why wouldn’t the dish get rinsed and put away after eating? Why would the shoes be in the middle of the floor playing defense against me when I am walking from one room to another? I have worked on this phrase so hard. I do not ever want to have my children think there is something wrong with them. This is so potentially dangerous. I am so grateful for my wife to help me be better.

    Finally, Napoleon Hill has many great books, but one of my favorites is “The science of personal achievement”. In this book he talks about looking himself in the mirror and telling himself positive affirmations. It is well written and you really need to read his words in order to appreciate his experience. Anyway, my wife and I created a list of positive affirmation that we told our daughters for years and years and years. It worked. These affirmations are some of my girls earliest memories and they can tell you these affirmations automatically. It is truly powerful. For Ericks blog only, I will share this unlisted video of me telling my little girl these positive affirmations. Enjoy. https://youtu.be/_6eZwHBJ0XQ

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    1. Hey, Gary, thanks for your feedback. More importantly, thank you for sharing your beautiful video with your daughter (https://youtu.be/_6eZwHBJ0XQ). It’s precious and fits my blog post today, perfectly. Thank you!

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  2. I agree totally! Your sister was very wise.?

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    1. Thank you, Kris!

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  3. such a god one, Erick

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  4. I meant to say good one, Erick

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