Your Words Matter
The old saying, “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” is ridiculous. Your words matter and what you say about or towards others can have a tremendous impact on their journey.
My sister, Kim, taught me this lesson in my early 20s when she pulled me aside one day. “You need to watch what you say, Erick, your words matter.”
I thought she was being a little over dramatic when she scolded me back then, but her statement stuck with me and over time I learned to appreciate her advice. Our words do matter and what we say about each other and to each other sticks to our souls.
I’ve struggled to filter my words over the years. I speak my mind and I joke a lot. I often wish I could take my words back, especially when I say something that hurts another person. I’ve sabotaged my own progress by saying something negative about myself. My wife is my accountability partner and reminds me when I get loose with my words.
Nothing has taught me this lesson more than with my kids. Their body language is telling as their shoulders slump when I express something negative to them. My words and how I verbalize them to my kids can change their entire mood. I’ve learned to uplift them and bite my tongue more so that I can encourage them, especially as they go out into a negative world.
Watch what you say to others, even when you’re joking like, “Why can’t you do better?” or “You’re an idiot!” Even words about yourself can stick like, “I’m really not good at that.” Or, “I can never do that.” The world is hard enough, don’t make it harder on yourself by saying things that can have an impact on you and those around you.
Be aware of what you say and careful with what you say out loud and release into the world. You can never take your words back, so be smart and remember that your words matter, especially to those closest to you. Uplift and encourage people with your words and live a blessed life.