The Power of Connections
It would be nice to only associate with people I like. Life would be much easier if I could just get along with everyone I encounter, but alas, this is painfully not the case, in many instances.
Relating with some people can be very challenging for me. It would be easy for me to walk away from a relationship then to stick it out and endure the uncomfortable interactions I encounter with some people in my network.
I’ve learned over the years to appreciate all relationships, good and challenging, for each relationship represents a powerful connection that is necessary for me to grow and thrive. The truth is that my most challenging relationships are the most important to me, because it forces me to reassess my paradigms and reconsider my position on things.
I don’t give my easy relationships a second thought, because their comfortable. Life is good with those type of relationships, but they don’t force me to grow. If I hang out with only like-minded people, the people that agree with me, then I can find myself in a comfort zone and then a rut.
Pain always proceeds growth. If I want to get stronger, I must push myself in a workout in order to give my muscles the right environment to grow. I’ve experienced several training runs where I wanted to quit, because it hurt. I only got faster because I forced myself to endure the pain. Why would I expect my relationships to be different?
I grow because of the hard relationships. These are relationships that challenge my thoughts and positions in the world. The difficult relationships force me to think about the words I use and how I approach people and the impact my personality and demeanor have on others. My experiences with the difficult relationships make me sharper, stronger, and more self-aware. Disagreements force change, and many times change is good. Life is dynamic and relationships are fluid. I’ve learned I can disagree with another person and still respect them, in fact, my respect for others I disagree with often grows and some of those relationships become my strongest connections.
There is power in the connections we make with others, and ultimately the power of those connections is what helps enhance and elevate our lives. People are not perfect; therefore, relationships are not perfect, but necessary in order for us to survive and thrive. The next time you find yourself despising another, stop and ask yourself, “What can I learn from this relationship?” Cherish all your connections, for each relationship you nurture has value.
There are some relationships that are toxic and require purging. I must be smart about those relationships and understand when it’s time to walk away; however, I can still learn from them as I prune the unhealthy relationships from my life.
What relationships are challenging you right now? What can you learn from them and how can you grow from them?