Master Timing and Master Success
My mother, a wildly successful business woman, had a saying that stuck with me, “Always leave someone’s home, before they’re ready for you to leave and they will always ask you back.”
It’s a very simple phrase, but unbelievably powerful. We are fickle in our relationships and can become bored and tired of each other quickly. I once had a mentor state, “Familiarity breeds contempt.” The more we learn about each other and our flaws, the less respect we have for each other. It’s easy to admire someone from afar, until you see them up-close and discover they’re riddled with flaws and faults, just like you and me.
For my mother to be successful in business, she had to spend countless hours in other’s homes. She mastered the art of timing and knowing when it was time to part ways. She learned to focus on a need and serve others enough so they would welcome her back into their lives.
That’s what life is about isn’t it? Serving others. If we could just serve others more and serve ourselves less, then the world would be a better place, right? But alas, that’s not how the world generally works. It’s full of selfish deeds, and none is more selfish than wasting someone’s time.
Time is our most precious commodity. It’s a resource that we constantly spend and we can never have back. You cannot invest time and then withdraw it later. What you have now, is all you have and can never get back. The few minutes you spend reading this blog post is gone forever, so it better be worth your time.
Respecting someone’s time is the ultimate respect. Learning to add value to another while being conscious of the time it takes to interact with one another is a skill that most successful people learn to master.
I’m a public speaker and so I’ve learned to always end my talks early. My business requires me to coordinate hundreds of meetings and I make it a point to end them early. I see the pleasure in someone’s face or I can hear it in their voice when I end early and respect their time. It’s amazing how often I get asked back to that person’s office, home, or on another phone call.
I learned that lesson from my mom and it has served me well. Respect a person’s time, among everything else, and they will respect and cherish you. How is your timing? Are you on a path for success or are you late for another meeting?