Would You Rather….
My son, Ryan, likes to play the game “Would You Rather” while we’re running together. He presents me with two options that are usually opposites and then I must decide which I would rather have the most. He usually poses silly scenarios like, “Would you rather have diarrhea once a day or have a massive diarrhea attack for 24 hours and never have it again in your life?”
On one occasion, he asked me a good one that made me think. He asked, “Would you rather relive the most fantastic day of your life, like a great vacation day over and over, or a simple and routine day over and over?”
I thought about it for a while and then I finally answered, “I would rather relive a simple routine day over and over.” Ryan was perplexed and asked why I came to that conclusion. “The simple days are the most precious,” I explained, “I like the quiet evenings at home when the family is gathered around the dinner table and recounting our days. I always cherished those nights eating dinner at home with my parents and I enjoy them now with you and your siblings.” Ryan accepted my decision and then proceeded to pepper me with more scenarios, usually involving some form of diarrhea, for the rest of our run.
As I think about my life and the events that make up my journey, I realize that it’s the simple things that I cherish the most. I can recount a vivid memory of feeling like a real family for the first time, while we lived in Colorado. I was upstairs putting away some clothes in the bedroom. I heard my toddler sons romping around with their toys downstairs. I smelled the sweet aroma of a home cooked meal filling our little home and then I heard the partial conversation my wife was having with my daughter in the kitchen. Those sounds and the smell of a home cooked meal made the reality of my family tangible and caused my heart to melt. It was an innocuous event, but it represented so much to me. It represented love, peace, and harmony. It’s a scene that’s been quietly replayed in my house hundreds of times and I never tire of them.
To me, those simple evenings at home with my family, doing “our thing” outweigh any fantastical vacation where we tirelessly seek pleasure and run around trying to capture every moment. Those moments exhaust me and I’m usually just ready to get back home by the end of them. Yes, I’m just fine with reliving those unassuming evenings at home with those I love and cherish the most. Give me that every day and I’m happy and content.
So, let me ask you, “What would you rather?”
Enjoy your moments, enjoy your life!