We hurt one another, it’s what we do. The stark fact of your life is that the overwhelming majority of your issues, your pain, and suffering are caused by someone else in your life. Whether someone fell short of your expectations, or doesn’t fully appreciate you or disrespects you, the majority of your pain is a result of your daily human interactions.
This is a special time of year. We’re in the final stretch and it’s a time that we begin to ponder our lives. What kind of year has it been for you? I believe it’s valuable to reflect and account for your life this time of year. Enjoy the changing of the seasons, the decorations, the great food, and time spent with family and friends. Cherish those you love and prepare to welcome in a new year. But, take time to yourself and soak in what was this year and how it changed you, impacted you, hurt you, and uplifted you.
One key predictor of your future success is how you think and react to what happens to you. I have the pleasure to teach, train, and motivate professionals as part of my work. It’s easy for me to discern who is going to be successful and who will struggle, based on their mentality and how the see the world.
I used to think there was a formula to success. There is not. There are common attributes that successful people have in common, but there’s no single path to success in any field or discipline, just like there’s no single path to the top of a mountain. Some paths may be easier than others, but there isn’t one path that leads to the mountain top of success. The key question, do you have the desire to succeed?
Our culture promotes and celebrates work. In fact, it’s a badge of honor for one to work long, hard hours and success is too often measured by time worked versus what’s produced. I recently read biographies on the late Steve Jobs, CEO and co-founder of Apple, and Elon Musk, founder and CEO of Tesla. Both men are known for their superhuman work ethic and inhumane workload that they expect of themselves and of those that work for them. However, I contend that this is not the way to long-term and robust success.